“What do we leave behind us in life? An echo of time!”

…what about actions?

More than anything I would like to point out that eating disorders and other kinds of mental and physiological ones, slip into our lives without notice. They’re not, from afar, a(n) (un)conscious choice. Of course, there are exceptions, but most people are surprised by the flavor that takes their lives.

The world is obsessed with the dietary spirit. The one who promises everything and nothing – slim figure, lightness, 0% fat, tonus, detox’, low body weight, weight loss, super foods, regimes, meals, drinks… and much more. As long as the world hunts this hunger, it will remain the same in time. We will never stop, until we believe in it. In the mean time it enriches the world’s economies, media and marketing! Yes, it is impossible to eliminate the unnecessary comments, conversations and theories about achieving the “perfect figure”, but we can save some statements, bitter for those who live with eating disorder or others like me, driven by their strong will for success, almost contracted it.

Believe me, people will keep talking, and we must learn to hear them, like we both abstain from their sweet and sour statements.

“You look healthy…”

Whether by good intention, it doesn’t matter, these words are bitter for those who go through or overcame an eating disorder. Let them be. Stop criticizing, judging, assessing and so on. This case illustrates how difficult it is for some people just to say: “You look good!”

“You look skinny!”

This kind of statement is like a two-edged sword. Understand that eating disorders are not directly related to the weight of the individual in question. It is a mental state of a person who, in one way or another, wants (un)consciously to have control over life in a difficult, challenging and busy period. This is a poorly received state of mind, because it can affect anyone, regardless of the weight, age and social status. Saying one is looking too skinny can only enhance the will power to lose weight. It is important to know that these people need psychological and emotional support, not judgement.

“Aren’t you too old to have an eating disorder? It does not suit you. Don’t you see it! “

Such a statement can only enhance the deterioration of individual’s health. At this point, the chaos in one’s mind gives the feeling that, despite the syndrome, one is not sufficiently “bad’ to ask for help. In this way, the enchanted circle intensifies, where others speak, and the sufferers remain silent. I grieved in silence. Then, the law of denial comes in. It develops the correlation between the preceding and the next stage of syndrome’s development.

“I’d like to lose weight.”

This is like talking about all the cocktails you had last night to a person from AA. Chatting about dieting before summer, to a person struggling of a eating disorder is counterproductive –  it is worth nothing – only confusion. Does the world revolve around diets and food regimes? I follow and observe my acquaintances in social networks … God, two publications out of three are about diets, pounds, fats, bodies, and not only. What’s going on to the world we live in? Is it so difficult to enjoy life without meaningless stories, kilos, etc.? Talk about ideas, not who is what and/or has not eaten!

“Why don’t you just eat it?”

Speaking of eating. Before, during or after an eating disorder, such comment can bring a person out of balance! I remember how after a workout in the dressing room, I talked to a girlfriend of mine and while I was changing my clothes I offered her candy from a box with chocolates, I had taken to the gym that day. Yes, just like that. Spontaneously. She took one and put it in her purse. Within another few seconds, she took out a pack of cinnamon sweets and held it up to me. I love cinnamon, of course I got one… I put it in a napkin so that it did not get dirty in my bag, and suddenly, out of nowhere, she said:

“Why don’t you just eat it?”

I looked at her, I smiled, and that was it. What? You think that I owned her and explanation? No.

Keep in mind that an eating disorder is a mental condition that is hardly measurable to a person’s physical condition! Not only over-weight people suffer from it. Among us there are people with so-called. “Normal” bodies, who also experiencing such a struggle… with themselves, food… everything and everyone.